Special occasions and holidays like Valentine’s Day inspire many of us to send flowers to those we hold with love and affection. In selecting the contents of your bouquet, make it especially memorable by choosing flowers that carry with them symbolic messages of endearment. Many flowers and plants have been associated with certain emotions, feelings and attributes throughout the centuries. This romantic notion was most apparent during the Victorian era with its accompanying publication of The Language of Flowers.

To the Victorians, each type of flower conveyed a message which could be modified by blossom color and also its stage of development. By combining different flowers in nosegays or bouquets, you could strengthen, diminish or deliberately misconstrue your floral communication.

A red rose, perhaps the most sought after flower come Valentine’s Day, signifies love, pure and ardent. White roses as well as most other white flowers often stand for truth and purity, while a yellow rose represents jealousy or mistrust. Not all yellow flowers convey negative messages; yellow tulips mean hopeless love, yellow violets, rural happiness and yellow jasmine, grace and elegance.


Red rose bouquet from UConn blooms,

Members of the pinks family including carnations are associated with betrothal, marriage and fidelity. In fact, at one time, their clove scented flowers were used to flavor the wine given to brides following the wedding ceremony. Clusters of phlox blossoms were frequent components of Victorian tussie-mussies. Delightfully scented, they were also a symbol of sweet dreams and implied a proposal of marriage. Because of its clinging habit, English ivy too, is symbolic of fidelity and married love.


Carnation arrangement. Photo by dmp.

Otherwise known as heart’s ease, love-in-idleness and tickle-my-fancy, the pansy, as its French name ‘pensee’ suggests, stands for romantic thoughts. You are telling someone special ‘I am thinking of you’. It was also thought that an infusion of pansy leaves would cure a broken heart. A bouquet of jonquils says ‘I desire a return of affection’ while the buds of a moss rose are a confession of love.


Pansies by Lisa Rivers.

A white daisy signifies innocence, a white chrysanthemum, truth. Forget-me-nots speak for themselves as does love-lies-a-bleeding. Lilacs were symbolic of chastity, purity, innocent beauty and immortality. Stocks meant lasting beauty.


Daisies by dmp.

Pink larkspur represents fickleness, purple larkspur, haughtiness. Snapdragons indicated presumption while a rose-scented geranium showed preference.

Herbs, foliage plants, and even many fruits had symbolic meanings. Rosemary is for remembrance, bay stood for constancy or immortality, and ferns for fascination. Giving your love a peach meant ‘Your qualities, like your charms, are unequalled’. A pineapple says ‘You are perfect’. An apple signifies what else but temptation!

For a long lasting floral conversation piece, make a nosegay or arrangement using dried flowers and plant materials. Add delicate scent by tying it with a grosgrain ribbon soaked in rose water and dried. A few drops of essential oil will also perfume your bouquet.

Start a new tradition with every bouquet you send. Spell out your message of love or friendship with floral elegance.

Dawn P